Rampant wildfires on the west coast, devastating floods in the east, civil injustice, political unrest, and a pandemic. In the past few years, our world has been the epidemy of out of the frying pan and into the fire.
We humans have experienced and continue to experience collective stressors, all the while trying to life out our existence on this planet.
How have you been processing the collective trauma’s we’ve all been experiencing?
Are you kinder to others because you identify with their anxieties and fears? Are you less tolerant? Are you numb to the world, not having much feeling or opinion on one thing or another?
Humans are an adaptive species and we build communities so that we can generate resilience, foster connections, and develop a sense of the collective self. The pandemic has taught us some valuable lessons.
I myself am an introvert and when the lockdowns began, I told myself that since I rarely leave the house anyway and I don’t even like being in crowded spaces, a lockdown is just business as usual.
However, as we’ve all learned by now, being isolated is very different than being an introvert. You as an individual may prefer your own company but that doesn’t mean you wouldn’t want the option to enjoy your own company out in the community.
Heading to the movie theaters where you’ll be surrounded by people, only to pick the seat that is away from everyone else – me making friends.
That feeling of togetherness but separate just became a feeling of separation. This is a feeling many of us have felt since the pandemic began and I realized that I was very privileged to have not ever felt this way in the past and that for me, it would be temporary.
Have you ever made a list of things you should be grateful for but that you take for granted every day?
My Grateful for List
I can walk
eat on my own
speak and hear
I have familial supports and friends
I have a career and co-workers
I have money – well I have enough money
I have electricity!
I have a platform where I can support others
I can read and have a nice pile of books I have touched in ages
I have a pet who keeps me company when I feel alone
and I have coffee - delicious coffee
Perhaps making a list of everything you take for granted every day will give you a bit of perspective.
Pics credited to: Louis Maniquet, Wix Media, NASA